This week I am talking about self-worth!
I know that I matter. I feel like we all know we matter to some extent but, as a hyper achiever and people pleaser, I tend to slip into the mindset that my self-respect and self-validation need to come from my achievements and performance. I also often lose sight of my own needs because I am too worried about acceptance and affection from others. This mindset is exhausting when it is operating 24/7 and I guarantee it will lead to some sort of burnout (speaking from experience here). If you feel this way know, you are not alone and there is a way to get out of this cycle!
I have recently been struggling a little with self-worth and have been trying to remind myself that I matter.
Example: I had no food to eat for lunch yesterday other than some stale chips and cereal with no milk. I thought I could have a really gross lunch of dry cereal and unappetizing snacks OR I could use my 30 min block that I put on my calendar for lunch to drive to my local grocery store and pick up something I actually like and that is going to fuel me in a way that I deserve. I went to Whole Foods, and hit up their fancy salad bar and felt so much better than I would have if I ate the weird mix of food I had.
The question I find myself repeating is, “Is this something that someone who thought they mattered would do?” It’s a mouthful, I know, but the more you say it the easier it gets to make decisions. Since I started saying this, I have found myself doing things out of habit vs. forcing myself.
This month I have been starting my day with a mix of any of the following: journaling, blogging, meditating, playing Wordle, doing the NYT mini crossword puzzle, walking around the block, taking a warm shower, cooking a delicious breakfast, reading, or working out. I am a morning person and my mornings are very important to me. As someone who matters,
I make sure that my mornings are spent on me.
As we wrap up the month, I think about all the new year’s resolutions people make and how many people give up on them by the end of January. Last year, my resolutions were to move more and be kinder to myself. I crushed it in both departments and this year I’m continuing those two but adding a third pillar, know your worth and act like it.
You matter. I matter. Now let’s all act like it!
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